{"id":16633,"date":"2019-03-23T19:49:20","date_gmt":"2019-03-24T00:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/inspiremouvement.com\/?p=16633"},"modified":"2021-02-08T09:22:46","modified_gmt":"2021-02-08T14:22:46","slug":"stopping-self-sabotage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/testim.weblibre.ca\/en\/stopping-self-sabotage\/","title":{"rendered":"Stopping Self-Sabotage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<strong>Happy Spring everyone!<\/strong> You did it! You survived winter!!!<\/p>\n<p>Although I don\u2019t actually dread winter and enjoy many aspects of it, it goes a bit against my nature because I love to feel free, to move without a big jacket and boots on, to walk barefoot and feel light\u2026 all of which cannot be done in the winter!<\/p>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]\n<blockquote class=\"mkd-blockquote-shortcode\" style=\"width: 90%\" >\n\t<span class=\"mkd-icon-quotations-holder\">\n\t\t<span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"icon_quotations\"><\/span>\n\t<\/span>\n    <h6 class=\"mkd-blockquote-text\">\n        <span>How was your winter? Did you find it long? Painful? Unmotivating? Depressing? Did you start off with a bunch of good intentions but then quickly lost your motivation and returned to your bad habits?<\/span>\n    <\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text] You&#8217;re not alone. According to <em>News &amp; World Report<\/em>, 80% of new years resolutions fail by February. The most common resolutions revolve around eating healthier and doing more exercise.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>According to <em>Psychology Today<\/em> 4 of the most common mistakes when making a resolution are:<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Your goals aren\u2019t clear<\/li>\n<li>You feel overwhelmed<\/li>\n<li>You\u2019re discouraged<\/li>\n<li>You\u2019re not ready for change<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>Good intentions or self-sabotage?<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]So often we have good intentions, we feel refreshed after the holidays and optimistic about tackling a new year. We set these huge expectations for the year to come and often it\u2019s overwhelming. We panic and eventually give up. <strong>Sound familiar?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s a situation: You decide to start working out again. You have 3 kids, a full-time job, you\u2019re not much of a gym person but you plan to work out 3 days a week for one hour as of January 1st. Your subconscious knows that that won\u2019t be possible, however you tell yourself that &#8221;if I can\u2019t manage it, it\u2019s ok because people will understand since I have 3 kids, a full-time job etc. Already you&#8217;re self-sabotaging.<\/p>\n<p>I<strong>nstead, a more realistic plan could be to work out once a week for 20 minutes to start off and then work your way up to longer more frequent workouts.<\/strong> That way you won\u2019t be sabotaging yourself into failing and you\u2019re more likely to succeed.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>Are you truly ready for the changes to come?<\/h3>\n<h3>Ask yourself these questions and write down your answers:<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Where do the goals come from\u2026is it from you? From your husband? From your children? From your mom when you were 12 and she made you feel lazy? What will these changes mean? What will they bring you? Be clear on the changes you want.<\/li>\n<li>Are you ready for change? How will these changes affect your life? Will you have to make a lot of effort? Will it hurt?<\/li>\n<li>What am I afraid of? If you\u2019re not this fragile out of shape girl, how will you get attention? If you\u2019re not ridden with pain, who will you be? Are you afraid of being criticized? Maybe you don\u2019t want your sister\/best friend to be jealous when you get fit and she doesn\u2019t, so without knowing you sabotage yourself into staying the same.<\/li>\n<li>What will I lose? What will I gain? If you go to the gym more frequently, what will that mean for your evenings, your couple, your children, your routine?<\/li>\n<li>How will I feel about these changes? Perhaps it doesn\u2019t feel safe to be exposed. I have a friend who is very strong physically but she always stays on the heavier side. She\u2019s dealt with a lot of trauma in her past and one day she told me: &#8221;Brigitte, I can workout out so much but part of me wants to keep this layer of fat around me to protect me, to hide me from others so they don\u2019t go in too deep. It\u2019s sort of like barrier of protection against intrusion.&#8221; WOW!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]\n<blockquote class=\"mkd-blockquote-shortcode\" style=\"width: 90%\" >\n\t<span class=\"mkd-icon-quotations-holder\">\n\t\t<span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"icon_quotations\"><\/span>\n\t<\/span>\n    <h6 class=\"mkd-blockquote-text\">\n        <span>And so when we start thinking about this identity we\u2019ve created over our lifetime, we can start self-sabotaging ourselves so that we stay the same. We get paralysed. We just stop, we stop working out, we stop eating well etc.<\/span>\n    <\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>What\u2019s the easiest thing you could do to get clarity on where the fear and resistance lies when it comes to doing more exercise\/movement?<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]<\/p>\n<h3>Need a little nudge?<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]If you need a bit of motivation to move, you can start (or re-start!) <a href=\"https:\/\/vimeo.com\/album\/5699057\">the 21-Day Challenge<\/a>. These short 4-8 minute videos were created for the busy person. We don\u2019t have to wait for January to do it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Springtime is a great time to start something new, everything and everyone is coming alive.<\/strong> More light, budding trees, singing birds, it\u2019s the perfect reason to start something new and boost your energy![\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]<\/p>\n<h3>Dealing with your emotions<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]We know that emotions impact our behaviours. Some people eat when they\u2019re stressed, others don\u2019t, some pull out their hairs, some get stuck and just don\u2019t do anything.<\/p>\n<p>If every time you tried to do a workout you had this voice in your head saying \u201cyou\u2019re fat, you\u2019ll never lose the weight, you\u2019ve never been good at sports, at sticking with things, you&#8217;re weak, what\u2019s the point\u201d then that affects your relationship with exercise. And you just don\u2019t stick with it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>One needs to change one\u2019s relationship with exercise in order to create lasting changes.<\/strong> We must reduce the cortisol level which keeps us in a constant state of negative stress. <strong>When we feel more calm we can feel more confident about our body.<\/strong>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>To work on your emotions and help stop the self-sabotage, here\u2019s a quick little mantra.<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]You can say this mantra to yourself while tapping the side of your hand (the side in line with your pinky finger which we call the karate chop point &#8211; imagine trying to chop a plank of wood with the side of your hand, that&#8217;s the spot. Use 3 fingers to tap so you make sure to hit the acupuncture point)<\/p>\n<p>Take a deep breath in and out.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>Then repeat this mantra out loud:<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]\n<blockquote class=\"mkd-blockquote-shortcode\" style=\"width: 90%\" >\n\t<span class=\"mkd-icon-quotations-holder\">\n\t\t<span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"icon_quotations\"><\/span>\n\t<\/span>\n    <h6 class=\"mkd-blockquote-text\">\n        <span>Even though I cannot be happy until my body is perfect, I love and accept myself fully. Even though I believe that I must panic and stress in order to feel happy and make changes, I love and accept myself fully. I am beautiful, strong, healthy, fit, happy and I love and accept myself.<\/span>\n    <\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Take a deep breathe in, and out.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Say this everyday (or do your best to add it in here and there!), especially when you start to panic about not working out enough, not having the body you want, not feeling great about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Until next time, keep moving and breathing deeply,<\/p>\n<p>Brigitte x[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How was your winter? Did you find it long? Painful? Unmotivating? Depressing? 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